What is your voice?
Amy sat at the conference table, observing her peer, Akash. He commanded attention the moment he spoke. As the first one to pitch in, he framed with his thoughts quickly and delivered them with ease. Amy thought, “How spontaneous of him to express those ideas so confidently.”
Later in the meeting, Amy contributed. She spoke deliberately, laying out her points with clarity. Her perspectives steered the discussion in a direction many had overlooked. Akash listened carefully and reflected, “She made an important point. I hadn’t considered that. It has real depth.”
Both Amy and Akash added value to the discussion. One spoke first, setting the tone, while the other brought depth and perspective. Each of them had a preferred style. Each style mattered, and each contribution shaped the outcome.
In any conversation, some people speak first and fast. They grab attention, set the pace, and influence the narrative. However, speaking first doesn’t necessarily mean speaking better—it simply reflects a particular communication style. Transition to another approach, those who pause before speaking often bring clarity, depth, and perspective. By listening first they absorb diverse viewpoints and respond with intention.
Both approaches hold significance. Speaking first energizes the conversation and sets the direction. Speaking later can refine idea, bring nuances, and highlight overlooked dimensions. Choose your position and pace as a speaker based on the situation — not necessarily out of compulsion or competition. Some thrive on spontaneity, while others excel through reflection. By embracing both, you create conversations that are richer, more inclusive, and ultimately more impactful.
For your reflection
- What would it look like to make effective contribution in a meeting?
- In what situations would you want to intentionally change your style? How will that help you?
“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” — Plato