Embrace our current selves We are constantly changing ourselves consciously or unconsciously. One day, our gradual changes become visible to us and others. We are quick to draw comparisons with our older selves, while others want us to get back to our older version. For Instance-We might say to ourselves, “I used to be someone …
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Feeling successful Even the most well-accomplished people can feel defeated. Why should someone feel so even after winning? It could be because(1) The price they paid to win in one area may be too high at the expense of other areas of life(2) They won but not on their terms(3) They had hoped to experience …
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Inner state Ambition is the outcome you want to achieve while aspiration is the kind of person you hope to become. However, there is another dimension to consider in your pursuits. It is the inner state you want to be in while you are pursuing your goals. They are your thoughts, emotions, or mental states. …
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Delegating decision making Shane Parrish, in his recent book, Clear Thinking, highlighted the dilemma of delegating decision-making for leaders. One of the challenges for leaders is to enable their teams to make critical decisions in their absence. Leaders don’t articulate to the team the most important criteria they use when they make the decision. While …
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Making use of new beginnings Are you still wondering what is the point of making new resolutions and not keeping up? Don’t give up so easily. Choose a resolution that you have never tried at all. You can always try to use the new year to begin a fresh start. Behavioral scientists call it the …
Helping someone grow Reflecting on a recent engagement, I realized that Coaching a person is about enabling their self-discovery and self-realization. One of the fundamental learning I gained was I cannot change a person. I can only aid them in being who they want to be. It meant learning to trust in the innate wisdom …
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Giving permission to understand My work revolves around conversations. Hence, I found this simple advice from Carl Rogers, an eminent psychologist, deeply insightful. “I have found it of enormous value when I can permit myself to understand the other person… Is it necessary to permit oneself to understand another? I think it is. Our first …
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Removing the creases from our chutes Parachute jumpers follow a unique practice to hang their reserved chutes every once in 60 days for 24 hours to let the creases out, and get the life back into the material. What can we do to remove the mental creases that we have accumulated over the years of …
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Obaitori – Every flower blooms in its own time When everyone sees everyone else as their competitor in the mad rat race, Obaitori, a Japanese idiom, comes as a great mental model to instill sanity in us. It refers to the four trees – plum, apricot, cherry, and peach that bloom at their own time …
The difficult part of learning Learning is hard if it requires us to let go of our own personal truths. Indian philosophy uses the term Avidya. It means the presence of mistaken conclusions about ourselves and the world that we value as knowledge. The only way to learn is to ask ourselves if what we …
