Demystifying yoga When I lie on a mat and stretch myself, I call it a stretching exerciseWhen I sit down and take a few deep breaths, I call it breathingWhen I close my eyes and observe myself, I call it meditationAll these can be the ingredients to a yogic practice but it is not yoga. …
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Agape Leadership Is ‘Love’ relevant in Leadership? In the book Trillion Dollar Coach, leaders often described Bill Campbell as someone who loved people. He gave bear hugs. He took people out. He generously donated his time. He held people accountable. Bill Campbell demonstrated Agape Leadership. To demonstrate selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love, is key in agape …
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Embrace our current selves We are constantly changing ourselves consciously or unconsciously. One day, our gradual changes become visible to us and others. We are quick to draw comparisons with our older selves, while others want us to get back to our older version. For Instance-We might say to ourselves, “I used to be someone …
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Feeling successful Even the most well-accomplished people can feel defeated. Why should someone feel so even after winning? It could be because(1) The price they paid to win in one area may be too high at the expense of other areas of life(2) They won but not on their terms(3) They had hoped to experience …
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Tribute to Daniel Kahneman Behavioral Science is no more about biases and nudges. It has evolved beyond these frames into the multi-disciplinary domain. The field got its prominence because of a few thought leaders like Daniel Kahneman who made behavioral science more visible to the larger world outside academics. Through his work, he proposed to …
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Hard thinking In my younger days, hard work was seen as a golden virtue. Many stories and narratives celebrated the hardworking chap who toiled to become successful. As I grew up I realized hard work was not the key to being successful. It was the hard thinking that gave people their edge. It is not …
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Giving permission to understand My work revolves around conversations. Hence, I found this simple advice from Carl Rogers, an eminent psychologist, deeply insightful. “I have found it of enormous value when I can permit myself to understand the other person… Is it necessary to permit oneself to understand another? I think it is. Our first …
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Valuing surplus time We value money over time. As Seneca rightly said – “People are frugal in guarding their personal property, but as soon as it comes to squandering time they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy.”The decision to spend time is driven by the need …
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Relativity and coaching In a recent behavioral science conference, that I attended, one of the themes that was reiterated was being multidisciplinary in approach; Bringing concepts from different fields to solve a problem. Upon reflection, I found it relevant for coaching. One example is that of the concept of Relativity. The main idea of relativity …
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