Understanding Exile I attended a wonderful session by Aruna Gopakumar on Leadership and Exile where I realized how life may put us through situations which seem like exile only to learn about ourselves. One of my key takeaways was exile is indeed painful, yet it is not a punishment and it can be a gift …
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Time rules Time is both subjective as well as objective dimension. However, we have only understood the objective aspect of time which is usually measured as productivity. This makes us rigid about how think and use one of the important resources in our lives. An alternative is to look at time subjectively which would help …
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HALT Our biological instincts are so strong that we sometimes underestimate their ability to overtake our judgment. Errors happen when we overestimate our willpower which gets depleted. Alcoholics Anonymous which helps people recover from addiction reminds their members of HALT. which is an acronym for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired. These are the four common …
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A note of gratitude Gratitude can be life changing. I have been recipient of many people’s kindness and generosity over the years. One fine day, I started to acknowledge and express my gratitude and appreciation over email. I learned something beautiful from the whole experience.1) I was reliving the joy of having received the kindness2) …
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Essence of education In a discussion with a seasoned educator, who passionately taught design thinking through arts, I learned that the focus of teaching is not on the subject but on the student who is becoming someone in the process of learning the subject. It reminded me of my Math teacher who took an interest …
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Seeing beings It is human nature to notice and register the most distinguishing aspect of someone. This has its own drawbacks as we tend to make snap judgements about others. These are rapid automatic associations that are in a way unconscious and also isolating us from others. Neuroscientist Rick Hanson teaches a mindfulness practice called …
Reappraisal It is human nature to make our meaning and interpretations out of events. Our interpretation is not fact-based but based on assumptions and our habitual thinking. Sometimes, these can be self-limiting and self-defeating. Reappraisal is a way to break patterns of interpretation. It requires us to notice the self-defeating interpretations and replace them with …
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Being unconventional Srinivasan Ramanujan, the world’s renowned Mathematician did not rely on formal education to make his mathematical discoveries. He followed his intuition along the way to work out on what interested him. We love to be in a well-charted territory or a well-trodden path. A big drawback is that we perceive only what is …
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Mimesis of ambitions French philosopher René Girard stated that human desires are mimetic, or imitative. It meant that what we covet is pure imitation of others’ desires, not based on personal preferences. It leads to conflict and rivalry. Our career ambitions may be mimetic in the corporate world, especially in the early and mid stages. …
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Accountability vs Blame When something wrong happens, the first tendency is to blame someone. It could be parents blaming their children, employers blaming their employees, or the public blaming the government. The blame game has prevailed in every aspect of our lives. Blaming is quick but holding someone accountable is difficult. Holding someone accountable means …
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